DEAR DAUGHTERS
In 6 days we will be off to Punta Cana. Every year for the past 5 years I have earned a free trip through the company I partner with.
I’m always grateful for the opportunity to travel, explore, enjoying new experiences, connect with dear friends, and meeting new friends.
I could take our girls but I don’t. There are other things I would rather do with them where the focus is 100% on them. And I think it’s important for a husband and wife to get away and focus on each other once in a while too. So we always use our yearly trip as an opportunity to connect as a couple. Healthy happy parents make healthy happy kids and a healthy happy family. This is what works for us, but each to their own.
No matter how “normal” travelling becomes, I always have a little worry in the back of my head that “did I say everything “ that needs to be said to the people I love. What if something happens to me and I didn’t tell them?
It’s so crazy where our minds can go. But I have even started writing letters to my kids on the plane and then thought, but what if my phone explodes in a crash and the information doesn’t get downloaded and they never get to read the letter!
I don’t know if that’s just a mom thing, or if that’s a human thing.
But today I decided I would write a letter to my daughters. They are still young and there’s so many more things I want to say but I feel like this is already too much.
But I wanted to share with you. Because maybe you have a lovely daughter and these are things you think we are unable to put into words yourself?
Please don’t send me letters about boys being important too.
Of course they are.
I just happen to have two daughters and so I’m writing to them.
But seriously, if any of this letter resonates with you, if any of it is something you want to share with your daughters, or with someone else’s daughter that you love, please pass it on.
Dear daughters,
I love you more than words.
There are so many lessons I want to make sure that I teach you, and I hope I get the chance, and that I do it right.
There is so many things I have learned over my life that I PRAY will save you heartache, time & troubles.
I know that no matter how much I try to be the best parent possible I’m going to screw up. I know that no matter how much I love you, & try to show you that, there are going to be moments where you don’t feel that way.
I apologize in advance for every single thing that I mess up.
I know that in all my desire to teach you good things, to help you grow strong & confident & happy, I am going to accidentally mess up somehow, and I’m sorry for any pain I cause I’m your life, it was never my intention.
Please know in everything I do, I’m doing my best & praying that God will help me do the rest. 
I love you more than words can say, or than is humanly possible for me to show.
I pray the things that I share with you will take you through this life & you will not just hear them, but truly receive them.
1.You are valuable. Period.
Regardless of what anybody else tells you. Regardless of anyone else’s opinion. Your value was created before you were even born. God said you were worthy, and you always will be. Your value is in who GOD says you are, not in who the world says you are.
2.Create healthy boundaries.
It’s easy to want to please people. I understand the desire to be liked. But you are NOT responsible for other people‘s happiness. You are responsible for YOUR happiness. And you do not have to make yourself uncomfortable to make someone else comfortable, you do not have to say yes, when you want to say no.
3.Popularity is overrated.
It’s better to be a person of integrity than a popular person. It’s better to do the RIGHT thing, even though it may not always be the popular thing.
4.Your body belongs to you & God.
Your body truly is a temple. Other peoples opinions about YOUR body are NOT valid. Your body is the only one that you get, so treat it with respect & love.Base your opinion of your body on what God says about you & on what YOU say about you. Not what social media says it supposed to be. Not what any of your peers tell you it should look like. It does not matter what you weigh. Your weight, or the size of your clothing, or the shape of your thighs does not determine your worth. Have confidence, stand tall, & love yourself, for you are wonderfully & fearfully made. You ARE beautiful, unique, & amazing no matter what anybody else says.
5.The right partner will love you for you.
They won’t ask you to change or be somebody else.The right partner will be faithful to you. The right partner will be trustworthy. The right partner will be your best friend. The right partner will not verbally or physically abuse you, EVER. The right partner will treat you with respect, & love. The right partner will not be perfect, but they WILL be perfect for you.
6.Don’t be in a rush to grow up.
Being an adult is overrated. Trust me.
7.Relationships are always more important than money or things.
You can always get more things. You can always get more money. But you can’t get more time. So choose your friends wisely. Choose your circle of influence wisely. Then love people with no expectations in return.
8.Be a kind person but never be a doormat.
Being kind is NOT the same thing as being a pushover. You can be a kind person without taking any crap because healthy boundaries are important.
9.Work hard. But work smart.
Don’t be afraid to jump. If you are living in your comfort zone you’re not doing something right. Have perseverance, have GRIT. Usually things that are worth having, take a lot of work, patience, and time to come to fruition. So don’t be afraid to put in the work!
10.This life we lead IS a gift.
It is shorter than we expect. There are no guarantees in life. Life is not fair. So while you are here, enjoy it.
Smell the flowers.
Embrace nature.
Breathe the fresh air.
Get outside!
Travel.
Hug.
Focus always on gratitude.
Look for the positive in everything.
Aim to make an impact & leave the world a better place than you found it when you leave it.
11.* Look to God as your source. Always. *
God’s grace is new every day & it IS enough for you. If in doubt, pray it out, because the answer always resides in Gods truth, which is His word. Your connection, & relationship with your creator is more important & powerful than anything else on earth, so renew your mind daily with His word. Jesus is in your heart and in the bible, so don’t count on church or people as your source.
12.Lastly, regardless of how you FEEL in the moment, or how hopeless a situation may appear to be, EVERYTHING is “figureoutable”. Your life MATTERS. You ARE important. You are a treasure. Gods treasure, and mine.
YOU my dear sweet daughters, ARE SO LOVED.
XOXO
Love Mama